“Don’t allow men to use you for test and try” – Lady warns plus-size women

A viral video is sparking a heated debate on the internet, with a plus-size woman delivering a strong message to her fellow ladies: “don’t let them use you for test and try.” She urges women to ensure their partners genuinely appreciate their size, stating, “Before you enter into relationship, make sure you have it factored out that the man likes you and your size. Make sure it’s spelt out completely that he likes plus-size ladies and able to put you out there.” She powerfully adds, “He shouldn’t be ashamed of taking you out there just as he won’t be ashamed of f**king you.”

The clip has ignited a firestorm of reactions from netizens. Some agree, with one netizen saying, “Its true, you don’t want to go and date people that are not into you and then they start recommending how to loose weight to you, start comparing you to other people. What she said is nice.” However, others offer differing perspectives. “It’s a choice, weight is something you can change if you want to! Everyone has a preference. Health is wealth.”

The conversation quickly turned to the matter of health and societal expectations. “Why human beings go fat? Look at it well, are you happy that you are like that? No, look at it, forget society standards or summer body are you genuinely happy?” one netizen questioned. Others suggested lifestyle changes, “No wahala when the time is right, she go end up for gym,” and “Or just register with a gym and live longer in good health, all these talks and coping mechanisms na deceit. Are you happy being fat!”

Some comments took a more flippant tone, “If u see me for ur dm, Block me. If I call you on the road, call police for me. From head to toe nah breast🤣,” and “As a matter of ‘fat’ 😭😭.” One netizen even offered a critical observation of the speaker’s physique, “Sorry, but her fat is not “fatting” sha. She doesn’t have that natural fat shape. She is a bit shapeless. Just stating fact without being biased.” The online debate points to the complex and often conflicting views surrounding body image, relationships, and societal expectations.

What is your choiced size in both men and women?